So before I started this book, I didn't think I would find anything useful! Well I did. But you are going to have to sort through my sarcasm and anger when I originally posted this.
Is it just me or does this book have a negative tone?
It seems more than a little judgemental.
I will first off say that I am a mother who believes in demand feeding.
My big issue is that Ezzo makes demand feeding look ridiculous. In fact he says that this can create child centered parenting, which 'if you parent this way, you yourself may end up with some form of psychosis.'
I'm sure he was just being funny...
The book harps a lot on sleep patterns and feeding, well in regards to scheduling. I do agree (WHAT?!, I know) that an infant can't rule the household. There needs to still be time for mom and dad to strengthen their relationship. With that being said I don't think that creating a rigid schedule does that. With my little one, she fell into a pattern on her own. I do believe that not all babies are like her. She didn't suffer with colic or any infant ailments. Enzo says that by creating a predictable schedule a baby shouldn't suffer from colic. Not sure that I agree on that one.
And of course the dreaded sleeping with your child debate. He states that not only could you roll over your child, but you shouldn't create a routine that you will eventually need to retrain. So I guess I should throw out my diapers and work on elimination communication. Isn't potty training retraining? My other argument with those against co-sleeping is don't I co-sleep with my husband? So me, a grown woman, is able to sleep with someone else, but my 3 month old can't. Oh that makes sense now...(sorry for the sarcasm).
Co-sleeping is a positive philosophy for me because I have read that:
(those are just a few)
Here were a few articles about co-sleeping deaths and alcohol and drugs
So why is not safe to co-sleep with your baby? Oh if you are on drugs or are drunk....got it! I hate media sometimes.
Back to the book: Overall the book was really harsh and really only mentioned that you can parent two ways.
You can parent with a schedule or you can let the baby make the schedule. And if you do the latter you are a horrible parent.
Realistically, we all know that there are several ways to parent. There will be times that I let things get by, that are schedule required flexibility. I have probably fed Lilly more than waiting for her to cry it out.
I did agree that babies do have feeding, waketime, then sleeptime However, I just don't think you should lump babies together into two categories.
My overall opinion of this book is that I am glad I red it, but I don't think I would recommend it.
Let's face it...I'm an attachment parent and if that means I have to 'retrain' my child eventually to sleep on their own, then so be it. :)
What are your thoughts on Babywise? Have you read it?