The following post is written from a personal standpoint and is not meant to judge or criticize anyone.
I was so good about reading up on attachment parenting BEFORE Lilly was born, so I was so confident in my parenting style.
I guess I didn't read enough because now that in the thick of it.
I feel lost.
I feel subject to people's criticism.
I feel sensitive
I feel unsuccessful.
I know that "all babies are different" but I can't seem to shake my need for striving toward perfection when I feel helpless.
I break down. I stress out. And I have a mopey session.
But rest assured. I have felt a weight lifted off my shoulders.
My confidence as a parent will never be found in perfection and I have to let it go.
I read an article on sleeping and realized its NOT my fault.
There is so much pressure to have a baby be independent so young and I have rooted my beliefs in attachment parenting because that works for us.
In this article by Dr. Sears, it states
"An important fact for you to remember is that your baby's sleep habits are more a reflection of your baby's temperament rather than your style of nighttime parenting. And keep in mind that other parents usually exaggerate how long their baby sleeps, as if this were a badge of good parenting, which it isn't. It's not your fault baby wakes up."
That is seriously all I needed to hear.
It's not my fault.
I'm not ruining my baby.
I also learned that the reason Lilly was waking up after 20 minutes was due to her sleep cycle. Babies don't fall into deep sleep right away. They have a period of light sleep beforehand.
I should have read this a while ago, but I glad I have now!!
I really want to stress that this isn't for everyone. Keep in mind, I'm that crunchy mom who had her baby at home in a tub ;)
How did you make it through sleepless nights with your little one?